I won't just listen to your current struggles compassionately and with understanding. I will bring you a trained, professional and objective eye to help you make real and lasting change in your life - so that you feel better able to cope with the challenges life throws at you.
Therapy that works
I mainly use an amazing kind of therapy known as Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT). ACT is one of the world’s fastest growing therapies with huge amounts of gold standard scientific evidence. I received my training from Dr Russ Harris.
You may have heard of mindfulness - and this is an important part of my offer to you. It is not meditation, sitting with crossed legs or chanting, but a range of techniques proven to help tame a busy mind prone to anxiety, stress and depression - and to make your mind work for you rather than against you.
I will always have time to talk about your problems, past and present - but I will also encourage you to keep your focus firmly on the doing of things that will be helpful for your present and future.
I started my path in counselling and therapy as a psychology student at Cambridge University from where I graduated back in 1993. Coming from a relatively humble background my experience amongst some of the world’s most privileged people gave me a rich learning experience and put me on a huge learning curve - which I perhaps wasn’t quite ready for at the time! I look back fondly on these years, and still have precious friends from back then, but also recall the huge and painful pressures I faced as a young person trying to make their way in the world.
While my heart lay in counselling and helping others, I wasn’t ready or in the right place to go down this path and got sucked into the London corporate career world in marketing communications – about the closest I could get to psychology and understanding minds in the business place! My years in large organisations were invaluable in giving me direct insight to the many forms of stress and anxiety in the workplace including bullying, discrimination, stress, handling difficult managers and colleagues and burn out. I certainly had my highs and many happy and fulfilling experiences during these corporate years - but I more generally experienced a significant degree of dissatisfaction in life including stress, anxiety and unhappiness - and I also witnessed this daily amongst my colleagues. Maybe, like me, they felt their life lacked a sense of meaning and purpose.
I expected things to get better when I married, started a family and downsized my career to one which fitted better round my new priority – my family. I tried all kinds of combinations: full time mom, part-time work, full-time work. Yet I continued to experience feelings of inadequacy and lack of fulfilment.
Explanations offered to me by my GP, my therapist and my friends always seemed over-simplistic: that it was all due to an 'unhappy childhood' or negative thinking or a chemical imbalance in my brain. These ‘answers’ didn’t fit.
So I started my own personal journey to find out what was wrong. I have been down a lot of blind alleys and dead ends. But eventually, it led me to ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. As soon as I encountered this practical and very accessible approach to therapy everything started to feel more manageable. ACT helps - and continues to help - me quickly and effectively deal with worry, stress, anxiety, low mood, difficult relationships - in summary, the crap that life throws at me.
ACT isn't a complicated or 'magic' approach to therapy. It offers common sense and insight into how the human brain and mind work - and how this often works against us feeling in control or fulfilled.
It's not too big a claim to say that ACT helped me turn my life around, helping me develop the confidence and commitment to start my own counselling and therapy enterprise: On With My Life.
My qualifications and experience
I received my counselling training at Keele University and hold a Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology – which is accredited by the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I am also a Registered Member of BACP.
My counselling experience is broad and I have counselled in a variety of settings including the NHS as a staff counsellor, a large hospice with those experiencing grief and bereavement, a sexual violence and abuse service and as an alcohol / substance misuse counsellor.