Welcome

 Are you stressed? Anxious? Depressed? Or are you struggling to come to terms with change or upset in your life such as separation, divorce or the death of someone close to you? If you want to understand why you're feeling this way and find a way out of your unhappiness to a stronger and more confident future, I can help you.

Welcome

Our life rarely goes the way we plan it -it can deal painful blows that shock and hurt, it can sometimes completely knock us off our feet. Sometimes simply the daily pace of life is enough to wear us down. The result can be stress, anxiety, anger, illness and depression.

The bad news is that disappointment, failure, loss, frustration, illness, rejection, ageing are part of our human experience. We can't have everything we want in life and we can't always be happy.

The good news is that even if we can't have what we want, we can still lead a rich and rewarding life. A fulfilling life with meaning and hope.

I will take as few sessions as possible to help you understand your current unhappiness. This could be stress, depression, anxiety, grief,  compulsive or addictive unhealthy behaviours. I can help you think about your problems in a new way and offer you a range of techniques to make you feel better after every consultation.

Is your stress / anxiety / depression 'bad' enough to have counselling? 

I would estimate that during their initial session with me, 90% of my clients question whether they should be seeking counselling. They say things like 'other people have it worse' or 'I only have first world problems'. My response is that just because  your issue isn’t connected to life or death, doesn’t mean it doesn’t cause genuine pain or isn’t worth thinking about. You know in your heart if something isn't quite 'right' and could be better. If you fill your own cup up, then you are able to give to others - that isn't selfish; it is sensible and wise.

On with your life

I am here for you and will take the time to understand you, recognise your pain and appreciate how badly you are suffering - with a trained, experienced and professional eye.

I am able to support you, treat you kindly and offer you practical and valuable help to help you move on with confidence through you life  - which will be an investment you will earn the returns on for many years to come.

A welcoming central Stafford location

My Stafford office is located 15 minutes walking distance from the town centre.  There is easy on-street free car parking are and the building has full disabled access and toilet facilities.  My therapy room is just a couple of minutes from a bus stop (Greyfriars) which is on the main route for buses arriving from the north and south of Stafford as well as Newcastle under Lyme and Stoke on Trent

Testimonials

Julie was excellent to work with. She made me focus on specific areas for reflection and strategies. 

Thank you - I am coping better each day with your help and support.

After working with Julie I have an increased awareness of my self perceptions and how to change this. I have learned how to care for myself.

Julie was simply a great help!

Julie has helped me through an extremely difficult time - I could not have done it on my own.

Julie was really helpful when talking to her about any feelings I had. She took it the next step by actually taking the time to look into things I had mentioned which could later be discussed in sessions. She's a credit to her work and would recommend anyone who's perhaps looking on here for counselling to take the push and reach out to her

At the time I contacted Julie I was at a very low point in my life. For someone who doesn’t like to talk about their problems or open up to people I always thought therapy wasn’t for me. I’m told reaching out is the hardest part, I guess looking back it’s very true. From the start I found Julie very understanding of my situation and was able to see things from my point of view. I cannot tell you how refreshing that was for me. Throughout my sessions I was able to make sense of certain thoughts and was taught how to help control other thoughts that were just not helpful to me. Over my time working with Julie I have learnt a lot about myself and why I think or behave in a certain way. I’m very grateful for how Julie has helped me move forward with my life and understand my depression

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